Tricks Women Can Use to Make Having an Orgasm Easier

Posted: 02/02/2009 |Comments: 0 | Views: 29,270 |

No it's not that kind of trick.

Dr. Louanne C. Weston, a board certified sex therapist, explains that around 10 percent of women have never had an orgasm, either alone or with a partner. Some of these unfortunate ladies are smart enough to recognize the problem and seek a solution. The good news, according to Dr. Weston, is it is possible for a woman to learn to be orgasmic.

The most important thing a woman needs to know to make achieving an orgasm easier is to learn how to properly balance the amount of tension and relaxation during sex. You may be wondering how you can be both tense and relaxed at the same time.

The key thing to understand here is the difference between muscle tension and stress tension. Stress tension is the tightness in your neck, shoulders and sometimes your back caused by mental worries and life's stresses. It is a good idea to relax and release the stress tension built up in your neck and shoulders with massage and relaxation exercises before sex. But trying to remain totally relaxed during sex will make having an orgasm difficult.

A woman needs a fair amount muscle tension to reach orgasm, especially when she is first learning how. Most women first learn to orgasm while tightening their leg, stomach and butt muscles. Once a woman learns to climax this way she will continue to need use these muscles to provide the tension she needs for orgasm until she learns a better and easier way.

The best orgasm inducing muscles for women to tense up are the muscles in her lower pelvic region. These are the same muscle used to stop the flow of urine. Developing conscience control of contracting or tensing these pelvic floor muscles makes getting the right amount of orgasm inducing muscle tension easy.

When the pelvic flour muscles are tensed or flexed the blood flow to the genitals increases. This not only increases a woman's arousal, her increased awareness and control of these muscles heightens her sensitivity to sexual stimulation.

When a woman has correctly developed her pelvic floor muscles through regular pelvic exercise, using a pelvic exerciser such as the ezCOME (easy Clinical Orgasm Muscle Exerciser) not only can she consciously build the muscle tension and arousal needed to make her orgasm happen, she also enjoys greater unconscious pelvic muscle tension and contractions during sexual stimulation. Women with well developed pelvic floor muscle often enjoy many spontaneous orgasms during sex. This is a fact I can personally verify.

Here is where the right kind of relaxation is important. A woman needs to learn to relax her mind during sex. She needs to block out the mental distractions, like the ones that give her the neck and shoulder stress tension mentioned earlier, so she can focus on the sensations of sexual pleasure.

The best way to get rid of orgasm blocking stress is to replace it with sex positive images and words. For example as she is being stimulated (either by herself or a partner) she can picture in her mind a passionate or erotic scene from her favorite romance novel or movie with her and her lover in the leading roles.

She can first picture in her mind the scene as if she is watching from a distance and then mentally change her perspective and imagine she is experiencing it in person.

Or she can repeat the words "This feels really good" and " I can take as long as I need" in her mind as she is stimulated.

These techniques keep the mind occupied with thoughts that encourage sexual arousal and enjoyment and keep out negative thoughts. Think of it as daydreaming about sex during sex so you can enjoy sex.

Once the distracting thoughts have been replaced with sex positive thoughts, pelvic floor muscle contractions are added. With practice most women can learn to tense their pelvic floor muscles and build sexual orgasmic tension while letting their minds go silent. They are then free to be in the moment with their partner as they build up to one or several orgasms.

The physical and mental exercises described help many women having difficulty with orgasm. A medical condition or medications can also interfere with a woman's orgasm ability. Ask your doctor for more information about these.

The sex therapist designed ezCOME strengthens pelvic muscles and increases orgasms. It comes with a diet program designed to increase a woman's libido and orgasms.

Rate this Article
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 4 vote(s)
    Feedback
    Print
    Re-Publish
    Article Source: http://www.absexuality.com/sexuality-articles/tricks-women-can-use-to-make-having-an-orgasm-easier-751714.html

    Discuss this Article

    Jane Thomas

    Everyone today is convinced that every woman has an orgasm every time she engages in sexual activity. Yet amazing very few women are willing to talk about orgasm unless they work in the sex industry and are promoting either their business or themselves.

    By: Jane Thomasl Sexuality> Better Sexl 14/01/2014 lViews: 14

    How To Achieve Female Orgasm Better Female Orgasm Tips For Better Orgasm

    By: Keith Vancampl Sexualityl 29/04/2010 lViews: 102

    Achieving Female Orgasm Best Female Orgasm How To Give Her A Orgasm

    By: Keith Vancampl Sexualityl 28/04/2010 lViews: 21

    Whether the female orgasm medically exists or does not exist had been a very hotly contested issue among medical professionals but the former has been proven to be true in recent times. Since it has been medically established that the female orgasm exists, the problem and point of argument now shifted to how to exactly and consistently give a woman this much desired orgasm.

    By: M.J Scottl Sexualityl 10/10/2009 lViews: 161
    Jane Thomas

    Getting sex in perspective, very few women talk confidently either about the joys or the difficulties associated with orgasm. The vast majority are silent so it is difficult to know what they think. It would be nice to imagine that at least some are quietly getting on with it; too busy doing to be talking about it.

    By: Jane Thomasl Sexualityl 27/05/2009 lViews: 1,151

    Orgasim Female Real Female Orgasm Give Her The Best Orgasm

    By: Keith Vancampl Sexualityl 28/04/2010 lViews: 128

    Better Male Orgasms Multiple Female Orgasm Woman Libido

    By: Keith Vancampl Sexualityl 28/04/2010 lViews: 15
    Tamal Das

    The e-book "Make Woman Orgasm: Give Her Incredible Pleasure Beyond Her Wildest Dream!" by Holly Liv is designed to teach men proven strategies for making a woman attain orgasm almost immediately. The method that is taught in this book is a secret that is not known even to most women. This book is essential because more than four out of five women have disclosed that they have faked at least one orgasm. One of the reasons for faking an orgasm is, of course, to avoid hurting the male ego. Meanwhil

    By: Tamal Dasl Sexualityl 31/08/2010 lViews: 38

    Multiple orgasms for a woman! Multiple female orgasms Did you know that there are many different types of orgasms?

    By: Lina Tiwal Sexualityl 24/12/2009 lViews: 150
    John Dugan

    Erectile dysfunction can interfere with a man's quality of life. Stress may be the culprit, and finding ways to manage it is an important element of penis care.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 01/10/2014 lViews: 44
    John Dugan

    What are the best techniques men can use in any setting to hide an erect penis? Find out here.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 30/09/2014 lViews: 70
    John Dugan

    Dry penile skin can have some surprising causes. Here are just some of the issues that can lead to a parched, itchy penis.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 30/09/2014 lViews: 37
    John Dugan

    There are countless products for men who want to improve their performance in the bedroom; however, sometimes, sex enhancement is best achieved through these lifestyle changes.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 29/09/2014 lViews: 33

    Men with reduced penis sensation may be skipping these three essential penile care steps.

    By: man healthl Sexualityl 29/09/2014 lViews: 71
    John Dugan

    This surgery isn't right for everyone, but some adult men have reason to pursue a circumcised penis.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 28/09/2014 lViews: 39
    John Dugan

    Sex can be highly satisfying no matter what a man's penis size. This guide helps men learn the best positions for what they're packing.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 27/09/2014 lViews: 126
    John Dugan

    A man doesn't have to be bored with his solo play routine to try new things. Check out these inventive masturbation techniques.

    By: John Duganl Sexualityl 27/09/2014 lViews: 147
    Sheela Montgomery

    Spring brings leg showing and arm baring fashions. And what goes better with a new pair of sandals and a sleeveless top than nice tan. But is it safe to get that sexy tan? What about cancer? The answer will surprise you. Find out how the sun is a woman's best friend in many ways.

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 17/04/2009 lViews: 478
    Sheela Montgomery

    I agree great sex is worth thousands of dollars. But should a woman have to actually pay that much for better sex and enhanced orgasms? Well ladies if you have the money you can now get a shot that supposed to give you super sex. But is it really worth the price?

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 25/03/2009 lViews: 1,574
    Sheela Montgomery

    When you hear the term “hand job” you usually think of it in terms of pleasuring a man. However, women enjoy a good hand job too. Here are some techniques to keep a woman coming...back for more.

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 23/02/2009 lViews: 38,388
    Sheela Montgomery

    No wonder men say they don’t know what women want, because we often don’t know ourselves. And while we may not know what we want, we do respond when we get it!

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 12/02/2009 lViews: 105,467 lComments: 1
    Sheela Montgomery

    You may be wondering what learning to wiggle your ears has to do with a woman’s orgasm. Well quite a lot actually. You see learning to climax and enjoy easy orgasms is a lot like learning to wiggle your ears...

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 26/01/2009 lViews: 1,504
    Sheela Montgomery

    While the establishment expert’s debate whether or not the G-spot is real and if every woman has one, you can do a little exploring for yourself. It doesn’t matter if every woman has a G-spot; the important thing is to find out if you do. Many women don’t realize they have one until go looking for it. Then once you find it and “wake it up” sex is never the same, it gets better!

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 09/01/2009 lViews: 4,181
    Sheela Montgomery

    The Hitachi Magic Wand is perhaps the best personal vibrator/sex enhancement appliance available to woman and couples today. Here are a few ways to make it even more user friendly.

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 30/12/2008 lViews: 22,641
    Sheela Montgomery

    What two British studies discoverd when they measured women's most private parts. How do you measure up?

    By: Sheela Montgomeryl Sexualityl 18/12/2008 lViews: 14,543
    Author Box
    Articles Categories
    Quantcast