The #1 Reason So Many Women Avoid Intimacy With Their Man

Posted: 30/05/2009 |Comments: 0 | Views: 2,023 |

A normal woman LOVES intimacy.  It's what she daydreams about.  It's what her fantasies are filled with.  It's what she wants all the time.

Why then, do so many women avoid, withdraw from, and resist intimacy?

Actually, normal women – women who are emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually healthy – do NOT avoid, withdraw from, or resist intimacy. 

They do however, MOVE AWAY from the feeling of being USED. 

Women DO withdraw from being an ACCESSORY that's "pulled out" and "used" on an "as-needed" basis.

Women DO resist a man who ignores her and pays no attention to her until he wants something from her.

Bluntly, women avoid being a meaningless, valueless "masturbation hole".

Imagine, if your wife completely ignored you EXCEPT for when she wanted you to pull out your wallet and give her money.

It would quickly become would quickly see the link...the connection...when she's nice, when she pays attention to me, she wants money.

You'd soon realize that your wife didn't actually love, respect, appreciate, or admire you, she merely had a need for money from time to time.

How would that make you feel?

Not very good, right?

Well, now you understand how many women feel.  They long ago made the connection that when their husband pays attention to them and is nice to them, he wants sex.

They long ago realized that their husband was NOT coming on to them because he actually loved her, found her beautiful, cared about her, admired her, or cherished her.  Rather, he was responding and reacting to a physical, genetic urge – much like people are physically made to seek out a drink of water when they get thirsty.

That's why so many men get a "No thanks, not interested" response from their woman.  After all, who wants to be the equivalent of a meaningless, generic glass of water with no purpose or value other than to quench HIS physical thirst?

So, what's the solution?

It's not hard...

At the most basic level, intimacy that starts in a NON-sexual setting...intimacy that causes a woman to feel meaningful, valuable, pretty, attractive, special, and wanted...on a regular, on-going basis...that leads to a deep connection...a valuable relationship of mutual worth...and amazing THAT is intimacy that a reasonable, rational woman IS interested in.

So, frequently flirt with your woman in a non-sexual setting.  With persistent application, you'll find you're your flirting generally causes her to feel attractive which triggers within her a desire for intimacy.

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