Get your Wife to be a Swinger

Posted: 15/11/2010 |Comments: 0 | Views: 247 |

When I met my wife about 5 years ago, we went through the same thing most new couples go through. I'm talking about that phase where you have sex every chance you get. We even entertained the idea of bringing another couple into it for some fun. Fortunately, at that time we never acted on the idea. I say fortunately because the "Swing Lifestyle" requires a great deal of trust, and at that time we didn't have it.

A few years went by, we got married, we had a child, we moved etc. Like most relationships ours came to a point to where our sex life just wasn't anything to really brag about. Sex was rare and when we did have it, it just wasn't nearly as exciting as it once was.

Being an average, horny guy, I frequently fantasized about her being with another woman and I even started fantasizing about her being with another man (strictly for sex.) However, judging by our sex life at the time and what she was into, or I should say what she wasn't into, I was convinced that she would be completely against any form of swinging.

I decided I really didn't want to cheat on her so I figured I might as well give it a shot. We had a great relationship; I just wanted to enhance the sexual part of it. She had mentioned in the past that she might be open to sleeping with another woman "some day." So I used that to ease my way into it.

One quiet evening I just casually said "didn't you say you would be open to playing with another woman?" My goal was to simply let her know that I was 100% fine with it and that if she wanted to, she should do it. She agreed and we set up an account on a popular swinger site for her.

It didn't take long before she found a hot, local woman to play with. I just watched because I wanted to make absolutely sure that she enjoyed it completely and had no jealousy. She loved the experience and that opened up more possibilities.

A week or so later I brought up that experience in a conversation and very slowly and casually started to mention other possibilities. But instead of just asking "Do you want to do this or that" I began to tell her how much I love and trust her. I started to explain some of the fantasies I had been having, like seeing her play with another man.

At first she thought it was very odd for me to want to see her with another man, but I continued to explain to her how I love her very much and how I have the ability to separate sex and feelings and how I believe everyone has the ability to do so.

I don't know how many deep conversations we had on the subject of her playing with other men, me playing with other women and us playing with other couples, but in the long run we both agreed that it could be fun, but we should take it slow.

We did exactly that and now, two years later, we've had some of the most amazing sexual experiences. We both have the ability and desire to separate sex from feelings. Our relationship is actually even stronger now than it ever was.

She knows that I'm perfectly fine with her playing with anyone, whether it be a man, woman or couple, as long as it's strictly sexual. And I know that she feels the exact same way.

In my experience, I've learned that it all comes down to this:

It's so much more than you and your wife being horny. Being a swinger means you and your wife first having complete trust in one another and second possessing the ability and desire to separate sex from feelings.

My best advice for a man who is trying to get his wife into swinging is this: Ease her into it! The worst thing that you can possibly do is just lay it all out there on the line. Think of one scenario that you think she might be into and start with that.

TALK to your wife and let her know how much you truly love her! The "Swing Lifestyle" is about mutual satisfaction, understanding and believe it or not, relationship building!

Communicate, communicate, communicate! Be sure that you and your wife talk about every little thing. If something is bothering you regarding your sexual adventures or if there is something that you think may bother you in the future, talk about it!

If you can do those things you have years of sexual bliss in your future!

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